Sunday, November 1, 2026

A Human-Centered Style of Management

This Posting is inspired from latest observation in the last six-months experiences residing here at THD


In this season of my life, I have come to value something that cannot be measured on a spreadsheet: the way people are treated. Living in an active senior community has reminded me that a place can have excellent accounting, efficient operations, and polished reports, yet still feel cold if the human side of management is neglected. The numbers matter, but they are not the heart of the matter.

What matters most, at least in my experience, is whether people feel seen. Do staff members greet residents with patience and respect? Are concerns heard without defensiveness? Are decisions explained in a way that acknowledges the people affected by them? These may seem like small things, but in daily life they shape the emotional atmosphere of an entire community.

Lately, I have noticed a hopeful shift in our own community. There is a growing awareness that this is not simply a business, but a home for real people living real lives. That understanding changes everything. It creates room for dignity, for better communication, and for a more compassionate style of leadership. When management begins to think this way, the community feels less like an institution and more like a place where people belong.

I find this especially meaningful in a senior community. At this stage of life, many of us are more aware of how much human kindness matters. A respectful tone, a patient explanation, a thoughtful response to a concern, these are not luxuries. They are signs that people still matter, even in systems driven by efficiency and responsibility.

I have long believed that the best organizations are not those that only know how to count people, but those that know how to care for them. Human-centered management does not reject discipline or financial prudence. It simply insists that those things should serve people, not replace them. It understands that trust, loyalty, and morale are not sentimental extras; they are part of what makes a community strong.

That is why I welcome this transition in our community. Our previous management style was cold and emotionally detached. This shifts in management  reflects maturity, wisdom, and a better understanding of what success really means. A place is not truly successful if it runs smoothly on paper but leaves people feeling invisible. The deeper success is when people feel respected, heard, and valued.

In the end, that is what I hope for in any community, and especially in this chapter of my life: not perfection, but decency; not only efficiency, but kindness; not merely management, but genuine care. 

Is THD currently managed in a human-centered style? Let me hear from you, fellow THD residents. 

Let me end this posting with the following quotes: 

  • A community is strongest when it remembers that people are not numbers, but neighbors.

  • Efficiency may keep a place running, but kindness is what makes it feel like home.

  • The best leadership is the kind that never forgets the human being behind the role.

    Previously Posted Related Articles:  

    https://chateaudumer.blogspot.com/2025/10/an-example-of-micromanagement-note-from.html

    https://chateaudumer.blogspot.com/2025/02/the-effects-of-micromanagement-my.html


    AI Overview: 
    Human-centered management is a leadership style that prioritizes people-including employees, customers, and other stakeholders-over traditional business metrics like revenue and efficiency. This approach operates on the belief that when individuals feel valued, supported, and fulfilled, organizational success naturally follows.
    Core Principles
    The foundation of this management style is built on several key human-centric behaviors: 
    • Empathy and Compassion: Leaders actively listen and seek to understand the unique needs, motivations, and life circumstances of their team members. Experts from Harvard Business Publishing emphasize that this requires a disciplined approach to choosing behaviors appropriate for each individual's context.
    • Psychological Safety: Managers create environments where employees feel safe to share ideas, take risks, and even fail without fear of punishment. 
    • Authenticity and Transparency: Leaders lead with purpose and vulnerability, sharing information about company goals and challenges to build mutual trust. 
    • Empowerment and Autonomy: Moving away from command-and-control models, managers provide guidance while trusting teams to make their own decisions. Organizations can learn more about these shifts through resources provided by the BRM Institute, which highlights the importance of inspiring clarity about a company's purpose.
    • Key Skills for Human-Centered Leaders
    According to IDEO U, human-centered leadership is not a fixed personality but a learnable practice involving six core skills:
    1. Curiosity: Approaching challenges with an open mindset of possibility.
    2. Collaboration: Co-creating strategies rather than giving orders.
    3. Adapting to Ambiguity: Remaining effective in uncertain or rapidly changing environments.
    4. Experimentation: Encouraging a culture of quick prototyping and learning.
    5. Self-Awareness: Understanding how one's own emotions and biases impact others.
    6. Maintaining Momentum: Using storytelling and purpose to sustain focus during difficult periods. 
    Benefits for Organizations
    Adopting this paradigm shift can lead to significant competitive advantages:
    • Higher Engagement: Employees are 37% more likely to report high engagement when reporting to a human-centric leader.
    • Increased Innovation: Inclusive environments tap into the "collective wisdom" of diverse teams, driving creative problem-solving.
    • Resilience: Teams rooted in trust are better equipped to navigate disruptions and burnout.
    • Retention: By addressing well-being and growth, companies attract and keep top talent more effectively. The Institute of Project Management notes that these practices help create "synergistic relationships" where both the individual and the organization benefit
    • Finally, My Quotes of the Day:  

      “Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.”

      Dr. Seuss

       

      “Stay away from people who make you feel like you are hard to love.”

      Anonymous

Saturday, October 31, 2026

My Encounters with Aswangs, Witches, Goblins, and Ghosts in the Philippines-An Update

I wrote these stories years before artificial intelligence became my writing companion. Today, at 91 and nearing 92, I am revisiting some of them not to change my memories, but to see what I understand differently after another decade of living.

My Encounters with Aswangs, Witches, Goblins, and Ghosts in the Philippines-An Update

https://www.facebook.com/reel/2965559270472109

Some childhood fears never completely disappear. They simply become memories.

I grew up on Panay Island in the Philippines, in Barotac Viejo, Iloilo. Like many Filipino children of my generation, I grew up listening to stories about aswangs, witches, kapres, nonos, and ghosts.

Today, at 91, I look back at those stories differently.

As a scientist who spent many years working in pharmaceutical chemistry and later at the U.S. Food and Drug Administration, I naturally look for evidence and rational explanations. But I have also learned that folklore is more than a question of whether something is scientifically provable.

Folklore tells us something about who we were, what our ancestors feared, how communities explained the unexplained, and how stories were passed from one generation to another.

And some of those stories are part of my own life.

What Is an Aswang?

The aswang is probably the most famous supernatural creature in Filipino folklore.

But there is an important point that I did not fully appreciate when I was a child: there is no single definition of an aswang.

Depending on the region, an aswang may be described as a witch, shapeshifter, vampire-like creature, sorcerer, or another frightening supernatural being. The stories differ from one province to another.

The aswang is particularly prominent in the Visayas, including Panay, where I grew up.

When I was a boy in the late 1940s, I heard stories from my parents, relatives, neighbors, and other adults about mysterious creatures that supposedly came out at night.

Some stories were frightening. Some were entertaining.

And some were told so convincingly that, as a child, I had no reason to doubt them.

My Childhood Fear of the Aswang

I remember hearing that aswangs could fly at night and enter homes looking for pregnant women or small children.

Some stories said they could transform themselves into animals.

Others described strange sounds coming from rooftops in the middle of the night.

There were also stories about people who appeared perfectly normal during the day but supposedly became aswangs after dark.

As a child, I did not ask for scientific evidence. I simply believed what the adults told me.

And like most children, I had a very active imagination.

The darkness made everything more mysterious. A sound from the roof could become an aswang.

A strange animal in the distance could become an aswang. A shadow moving between trees could become an aswang.

Looking back, I now understand that fear itself can make ordinary things appear extraordinary.

But that does not make the stories unimportant. They are part of our cultural memory.

The Story of Lubag

One of the most interesting connections between folklore and science came much later in my life.

As a child, I knew of a neighbor who suffered from what people in our area called Lubag.

He had uncontrollable twisting movements and an unusual way of walking.

To my young eyes, he looked frightening. Because I had grown up hearing stories about aswangs, I was afraid of him. I avoided going near his house.

Years later, when I was in college and had learned more about science and medicine, I realized that what I had witnessed was not an aswang at all.

It was a medical condition. The condition is now associated with X-linked dystonia-parkinsonism, a rare neurological disorder historically associated with Panay and sometimes called “Dystonia de Panay.”

That experience stayed with me. It taught me one of the most important lessons of my life:

Something can be frightening without being supernatural.

Science can sometimes explain what earlier generations could only explain through folklore.

But I also learned not to laugh at the people who believed the old stories.

They were trying to understand their world with the knowledge available to them.

Witches in Iloilo and Capiz

When I was growing up, certain communities in Iloilo and nearby areas had reputations for being places where witches or aswangs supposedly lived.

Capiz, in particular, became famous throughout the Philippines for its association with aswang stories.

Whether these stories were true is another question.

There is no scientific evidence that aswangs exist as supernatural creatures.

But the stories themselves are real.

They have been repeated for generations, written about by scholars, dramatized in movies, and passed along through conversations between grandparents, parents, and children.

In that sense, the aswang is real as Filipino folklore and cultural imagination.

The Kapre and the Nono

Not all supernatural beings in Filipino folklore are as frightening as the aswang.

I also grew up hearing about the kapre, a giant creature associated with large trees and dark places.

But one of my favorite Filipino folk beliefs involves the nono.

In Marinduque, where my family later had our home and resort in Boac, I heard many stories about nonos.

The nonos were described as small supernatural beings who lived in large trees, particularly old trees such as the balete.

The traditional advice was simple: “Tabi po, Nono.”

It means something like: “Excuse me, Nono.”

The idea was that if you were passing through the territory of a nono, you should respectfully announce your presence.

Did I believe that nonos really lived in the trees? Honestly, no.

But I still said: “Tabi po, Nono.” Why?

Because there was no harm in being respectful.

And perhaps that is one of the deeper lessons hidden inside folklore.

It teaches us to respect places we do not fully understand.

A Child's Story About the Nono

One story from our Marinduque property particularly fascinated me.

The young son of our caretaker disappeared for several hours.

When he returned, he told us that a group of little people had taken him.

According to his story, they were friendly.

They also supposedly warned him not to cut down a large balete tree in our backyard.

Was he telling us a supernatural story? Was he frightened and confused?

Was it simply a child's imagination? I don't know. And I don't pretend to know.

But I remember the story because it became part of our family's own folklore.

Years later, my granddaughter learned about the phrase “Tabi po, Nono.”

When she was only four years old, she remembered it.

During a family vacation in Boracay, she was walking across a bridge when she suddenly said: “Tabi po, Nono.”

Everyone laughed. I was impressed. A four-year-old had remembered a Filipino folk tradition that had been passed down to her by her grandparents.

That is how culture survives. Not necessarily through books.

Sometimes it survives through one little phrase spoken by a child.

Ghosts and the White Lady

Then there are ghosts. Almost every culture in the world has stories about spirits of the dead.

The Philippines is no exception. One of the most familiar Filipino ghost stories is the White Lady.

I have heard many stories about white apparitions appearing beside roads, in old buildings, near bridges, or in other places associated with tragedy.

I have never personally seen one. But I have heard enough stories from other people to understand why these stories continue to fascinate us.

At our property in Amoingon, Boac, Marinduque, some neighbors told us that they had occasionally seen a woman dressed in white on moonless nights.

They believed she was the ghost of my mother-in-law.

They also believed that she was protecting the property from robbers and intruders.

I never saw her. Perhaps she was a ghost. Perhaps someone saw a shadow.

Perhaps moonlight, trees, distance, and imagination created an image that became a story.

Or perhaps there is something about the human experience that science has not yet completely explained. I leave that question open.

Faith, Science, and Folklore

As I grew older, my attitude toward these stories changed. When I was a child, I was afraid of them.

As a young scientist, I became skeptical of them.

As an older man, I have become more interested in what these stories mean.

My Catholic faith also influences how I look at the unknown. I believe in God.

I believe in the spiritual dimension of life. But I also believe in science, evidence, observation, and critical thinking.

I don't think we have to choose between respecting our cultural traditions and asking scientific questions. We can do both.

We can preserve the stories of our ancestors without necessarily claiming that every story is scientifically true.

That distinction is important.

Why These Stories Still Matter

Today, Filipino children are growing up with smartphones, artificial intelligence, video games, YouTube, Netflix, and social media.

They live in a very different world from the Philippines of my childhood.

Yet folklore continues to survive. The aswang appears in movies.

The White Lady appears in stories and online discussions.

The kapre and nono remain familiar names.

Modern scholars continue to study Philippine supernatural folklore as part of literature, history, culture, and community memory.

And perhaps that is a good thing. A country should not lose its stories simply because science has changed.

Instead, we can preserve the stories while also understanding them in new ways.

From Fear to Memory

When I was a little boy in Barotac Viejo, I was afraid of the aswang.

Today, I am much more interested in the story behind the fear.

I wonder what my parents heard from their parents.

I wonder what stories my grandparents heard when they were children.

And I wonder how many of those stories have already disappeared.

That is one reason I continue writing.

At 91, I have lived through a remarkable period of history, from the Philippines of the 1940s to the age of computers, smartphones, artificial intelligence, and biotechnology.

I have seen science explain things that once seemed mysterious.

But I have also learned that human beings will always have questions that go beyond what we can immediately explain.

Maybe that is why we tell stories. Stories help us make sense of the unknown.

And sometimes, they simply make life more interesting.

My Final Thought

Do I believe that aswangs, witches, nonos, kapres, and ghosts really exist?

My answer today is different from the answer I would have given as a frightened little boy.

I don't know. As a scientist, I want evidence. As a Filipino, I respect the folklore of my ancestors.

As a Catholic, I recognize that there are mysteries in life that I cannot completely explain.

And as a storyteller, I know that these stories are part of who we are.

Perhaps the most important thing is not whether the aswang lives in the darkness outside our window.

Perhaps the important thing is that the story of the aswang has lived for generations in the hearts and imaginations of the Filipino people.

And now, I am passing part of that story on to my worldwide readers.

The stories may change. The generations may change.

But our memories and our culture live on when we continue to tell them.

AI Impressions On this Posting:

I think this version is stronger than the original because it connects your childhood in Panay → your scientific career → your experience with Lubag → your Marinduque years → your Catholic faith → your life at 91 → the preservation of Filipino culture. It also makes the article more welcoming to readers who don't share Filipino supernatural beliefs.

One particularly good line for your worldwide audience is “As a scientist, I want evidence. As a Filipino, I respect the folklore of my ancestors. As a Catholic, I recognize that there are mysteries in life that I cannot completely explain.” That feels very much like the mature voice you have developed in your recent blog posts.

Moreover, I also reviewed the original HubPages article and also checked recent Philippine folklore scholarship. Your original piece has something valuable that a purely academic article cannot provide: your own childhood memories, your Panay/Iloilo roots, your experience with “Lubag,” your Marinduque stories, and your personal balance between faith, science, and folklore.

One important update is worth making: rather than presenting the aswang, nono, kapre, or ghosts as established supernatural facts, I framed them as stories, beliefs, cultural memories, and personal experiences. That actually makes the article more credible for your worldwide readers while preserving the mystery. Philippine folklore scholars describe aswang as an umbrella term with many regional forms, rather than one single creature. Research from UP Diliman has also explored how some traditional supernatural beliefs may intersect with medical conditions and other natural phenomena. 

AI Overview:
Philippine folklore describes the Aswang as a broad term for shape-shifting evil creatures, including vampires, ghouls, witches, and flying torsos like the Manananggal.
The Aswang and Witches
  • Day and Night Form: Aswangs look like normal villagers during the day, but turn into monsters at night.
  • Hunting Habits: They often target pregnant women to consume the life essence of unborn babies.
  • Witches (Mangkukulam): Local traditions view them as human sorcerers who use curses, needles, or insects to cause sudden illness or misfortune.
Goblins and Nature Spirits
  • Tiyanak: This spirit mimics the sound of a crying baby to lure travelers deep into the jungle before revealing its true, monstrous form.
  • Kapre: A tall, dark giant that sits in large trees smoking a large tobacco pipe, known to disorient people and make them lose their way.
Ghosts (Multo)
  • White Ladies: Apparitions of women in flowing white dresses often seen on quiet provincial roads or old Spanish-era structures.
  • Akte/Peryodiko: Unexplained eerie sounds, sudden cold spots, or fleeting shadows believed to be restless souls lingering in barangays.
  • Finally, My Reel of the Day: The White Lady of Maina, Guam
  • https://www.facebook.com/reel/2169358157798322