Retirement, Mattering and the Quiet Gift of Purpose

I am dedicating this posting to all my Fellow Residents here at THD and to all my senior readers all over the world who are planning to retire or are in their retirement years.   

Retirement, Mattering, and the Quiet Gift of Purpose

I recently finished reading an article in The Wall Street Journal titled “The Retirement Crisis No One Warns You About: Mattering,” by Jennifer Wallace. Long after I folded the paper, one sentence stayed with me:

A sense of purpose plays a central role in retirement satisfaction and mental health.

That line struck a chord deep in my heart, not because it surprised me, but because it named something I had lived through, largely without realizing it at the time.

Much has been written about the financial side of retirement. We are warned to save enough, invest wisely, and plan for healthcare costs. Far less attention is paid to the quieter, more personal crisis: what happens when the world no longer needs you in the same way it once did.

The Invisible Loss After the Farewell Party

When I retired from the U.S. Food and Drug Administration at age 68, I did not feel lost. I felt grateful, accomplished, and ready for the next chapter. Yet I now understand that many retirees experience something different, a sudden erosion of identity, relevance, and belonging.

Work, for all its frustrations, provides structure. It answers an unspoken daily question: Why do I matter today? When that structure disappears, some people feel untethered. They miss the subtle affirmations, the emails, the meetings, the problems only they could solve.

I was fortunate. My retirement did not lead to stillness; it led to reinvention.

Purpose as a Shared Calling

Purpose, for us, was never a solitary pursuit. Long before blogging became my second act, my wife and I found deep meaning in medical mission work in our previous home province of Marinduque, Philippines. From 1999 to 2013, we volunteered our time, energy, and resources to support medical missions that brought basic healthcare to communities with limited access to it.

Those years shaped us profoundly. We witnessed hardship, resilience, gratitude, and grace. In serving others together, we were reminded that purpose is not confined to professional titles or formal roles. It often reveals itself in service, quiet, human, and deeply grounding. Sharing this work with my wife anchored my retirement years in compassion and reinforced a truth I continue to hold close: purpose grows stronger when it is shared.

Building Something That Outlived the Paycheck

After leaving the FDA, my wife and I did something bold: we built a retirement home in the Philippines, Chateau Du Mer Beach Resort and Conference Center. What began as a dream quickly became a living, breathing responsibility. I managed the resort for several years, and in doing so, discovered that purpose does not retire simply because a paycheck ends.

There were guests to welcome, staff to mentor, problems to solve, and a vision to sustain. I was no longer “Team Leader” or “Supervisor,” or " Doctor Katague" but I still mattered to the people who worked with us, to the guests who found rest there, and to myself. Purpose, I learned, is not about titles. It is about usefulness.

Blogging as a Second Act

Then, in 2009, I began blogging.

At first, it was simply a way to organize my thoughts. Over time, it became something more enduring: a conversation with readers around the world, many of whom I will never meet but who nonetheless share this human journey of aging, meaning, and reflection.

Blogging gave me a new rhythm to my days. It sharpened my thinking, connected me to global events, and perhaps most importantly allowed me to give something back: perspective shaped by experience.

In hindsight, I see that blogging gave me what Wallace’s article describes so clearly: mattering. The sense that my words, ideas, and reflections still had a place in the world.

A Different Kind of Wealth

Looking back, I realize that my happiness in retirement has little to do with comfort or geography. It has everything to do with purpose.

Purpose does not have to be grand. It can be tending a garden, mentoring a younger generation, volunteering, creating, or simply bearing witness through storytelling. What matters is the quiet knowledge that your presence still counts.

Retirement, at its best, is not an ending. It is a narrowing of focus away from ambition and toward meaning.

A Closing Reflection

If there is one lesson I would offer to those approaching retirement, it is this: plan not only for how long your money will last, but for how long your sense of purpose will endure.

I am a very happy and contented retiree today not because I stopped working, but because I never stopped mattering to my family, to my community, and to myself.

And that, perhaps, is the retirement crisis we should talk about more and the one we can still choose to avoid. 

A Closing Meditation

If you are reading this in the later seasons of life, pause for a moment.

Take stock not of what you no longer do, but of what you still offer. Your years have given you something rare: perspective. Your presence, your listening, your memory, your voice, these are not small things in a world that often rushes past wisdom.

Purpose does not shout. It whispers. It shows up in the way you greet the day, in the care you extend to others, in the stories only you can tell. You do not need to prove your worth; you need only to remember it.

May your remaining years be less about accumulation and more about contribution. Less about urgency and more about meaning. And may you wake each morning knowing that, in ways both seen and unseen, you still matter.

Meanwhile, here's the AI  Overview on the Above Topic:

In 2026, retirement research increasingly emphasizes that a successful transition depends less on financial wealth and more on a "mattering factor"—the subjective perception that one is important, noticed, and relied upon by others

. This sense of mattering is the "quiet gift" that transforms a life of leisure into a life of enduring purpose. 

The Core of Mattering

Psychologically, mattering consists of three critical dimensions that prevent the emotional burnout often seen in early retirement: 

• Awareness: The feeling that your presence is acknowledged and you are not being ignored by your community.
• Importance: The perception that others care about your well-being and take pride in your successes.
• Reliance: The feeling that others depend on you for support, mentorship, or your unique talents. 

6 Paths to Purposeful Retirement

Choosing a defined "retirement path" helps retirees maintain their mattering factor by aligning their daily activities with their core identity: 

1. Continuers: Use existing professional skills in new volunteer or consulting roles.
2. Adventurers: Ditch old routines to pursue entirely new careers or "dream" hobbies.
3. Searchers: Explore multiple options (Plan A, B, and C) to find the perfect fit.
4. Involved Spectators: Stay connected to their former industry as active observers or news followers.
5. Easy Gliders: Savor a freewheeling lifestyle without a fixed agenda, finding joy in daily spontaneity.
6. Retreaters: Focus on recharging through intentional reflection or perpetual relaxation. 

Benefits of Finding "Micro-Purpose"

As of 2026, new clinical evidence highlights that purpose does not need to be a "grand mission" to provide significant benefits: 

• Cognitive Health: A strong sense of life purpose is linked to a 28% lower riskof developing cognitive impairment.
• Biological Longevity: Regular volunteering in retirement is associated with slower rates of biological aging and lower levels of systemic inflammation.
• Emotional Resilience: Mattering acts as a buffer against depression, which affects nearly one-third of U.S. retirees due to the sudden loss of workplace routine. 

Practical Strategies to Foster Purpose

• Say "Yes" Twice a Week: Accept or extend two invitations weekly to signal mutual value between you and your social circle.
• The 3T Pattern: Identify a community need and meet it with your Time, Talent, or Treasure to regain the feeling of being "needed".
• Intergenerational Storytelling: Share family histories or mentor younger people; these "knowledge transfers" create a sense that your stories and impact will live on.
• Identify Your "Ikigai": Use tools like the Boldin Retirement Planner or Hartford Funds Workbook to map out activities that balance what you love, what you are good at, and what the world needs. 
• Lastly, my photo of the Day: Feasting on Dungeness crab tonight:
  
  
  
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Binging on the Four Seasons of the TV Series-Spartacus

Good Bye 49er's for this Season. I aborted watching (After the 2nd Quarter)  the Slaughter at Lumen Field,  the Game between the 49er's and Seahawks last night. The game was so one sided, final score: 6-41, it was boring. So I decided to finish  binging on the previous four  Seasons of the TV Series, Spartacus as follows:    

Spartacus is an American historical drama television series created by Steven S. DeKnight that premiered on Starz on January 22, 2010, and concluded on April 12, 2013. The series was inspired by historical figure Spartacus, a Thraciangladiator who from 73 to 71 BC led a major slave uprising against the Roman Republic departing from Capua. Executive producers DeKnight and Robert Tapert focused on structuring the events of Spartacus' obscure early life leading up to the beginning of historical records.

After Spartacus: Blood and Sand, production for another season was delayed because lead actor Andy Whitfield was diagnosed with stage IV non-Hodgkin lymphoma, so Starz produced a six-episode prequel miniseries entitled Spartacus: Gods of the Arena. When the actor's cancer recurred and he later succumbed to the disease on September 11, 2011, Starz had actor Liam McIntyre take on the role of Spartacus in the second season titled Spartacus: Vengeance. On June 4, 2012, Starz announced the third and final season, titled Spartacus: War of the Damned.

A sequel series set in an alternate timeline titled Spartacus: House of Ashur premiered in December 5 2025. It has 10 episodes and the Final episode will be shown on January 30, 2026.  

 

1. Blood and Sand (2010)

The story begins with the man who will be known as Spartacus - an unnamed Thracian - and his involvement in a unit of Roman auxiliary in a campaign against the Getae in the Lower Danube under the command of the legatus, Claudius Glaber. In 72–71 BC, Roman general Marcus Terentius Varro Lucullus, proconsulof the Roman province of Macedonia, marched against the Getae, who were allies of Rome's enemy, Mithridates VI of Pontus. The Getae frequently raid the Thracians' lands, so the Thracians are persuaded by Glaber to enlist in the Romans' service as auxiliaries.

Glaber is persuaded by his wife Ilithyia to seek greater glory, and he decides to break off attacking the Getae, instead directly confronting the forces of Mithridates in Asia Minor. The Thracian, feeling betrayed, leads a mutiny against Glaber, and returns to find his village destroyed. The Thracian and his wife Sura are captured by Glaber the next day; the Thracian is condemned to die in the gladiator arena for his crime, while Sura is taken away, condemned to slavery. The Thracian is shipped to Capua in Italy, a center of gladiator training. 

Against all odds in the arena, he slays the four gladiators appointed to execute him and becomes an instant sensation with the crowd. Senator Albinius commutes the punishment from death to slavery. The prisoner's true name unknown, Quintus Lentulus Batiatus, the owner of a ludus in Capua, suggests to name him "Spartacus", because he fought like the ferocious Thracian king of that name. Noting well the Thracian's fierce raw talent and popularity with the masses, Batiatus purchases him for training within the walls of his ludus under the tutelage of Oenomaus, a former gladiator and fellow slave who is known to the gladiators as 'Doctore', meaning instructor. He is befriended by Varro, a Roman who sold himself into slavery in order to pay his debts and support his family. He is harassed by more senior gladiators, notably Crixus, an undefeated Gaul, and Barca, a Carthaginian. 

Spartacus soon learns that Sura was sold to a Syrian slave trader. Batiatus, who has been unable to control Spartacus during his first days of training, promises to find Sura and reunite them in exchange for the promising neophyte's cooperation in the arena.

After many near-fatal ordeals and much more training, Spartacus kills Theokoles, The Shadow of Death. He attains the status of a living legend and is named the "Champion of Capua" and "The Bringer of Rain". Batiatus arranges the purchase of Sura, but she is delivered mortally wounded, supposedly having been waylaid by bandits en route. Her murder was secretly ordered by Batiatus to keep Spartacus loyal and focused. 

Spartacus casts off his heritage as a Thracian and forgets his dream of freedom, becoming content with life as champion. Meanwhile, Barca, wishing to buy his freedom, was slain by Batiatus with the help of slave and former gladiator, Ashur. Batiatus' wife, Lucretia, is conducting an affair with Crixus. She and Batiatus have been unable to conceive a child, though she later falls pregnant (a father remains unknown).

The turning point comes when Spartacus is set to fight his only friend in the ludus, Varro, in an exhibition match celebrating the coming to manhood of the Capuan magistrate's son, Numerius. Ilithyia, who has hated Spartacus since he embarrassed her husband Glaber by his mutiny, seduces the young man and convinces him to demand death for the loser of the match. Spartacus wins (as expected), and when the young man gives the "thumbs down", Batiatus, wishing to ingratiate himself with the boy's powerful father, forces Spartacus to comply and kill Varro. 

While suffering from both his wound in this match and his remorse and sorrow over having to kill his friend, Spartacus has fever dreams that lead him to suspect that Batiatus arranged Sura's death. He is able to confirm this by forcing Batiatus' man, Aulus, to confess the act before killing him. Knowing that it is all or nothing when it comes to resisting his enslavement, he resolves to "kill them all" and lead a revolt against the ruling house he once fought for.

In order to get his revenge, Spartacus enlists the help of Crixus and the rest of the gladiators to defeat the house of Batiatus once and for all. A battle to the death between Crixus and Spartacus is arranged for the Capuan elite at the ludus. Doctore (whom Batiatus refers to by his real name, Oenomaus) confronts Batiatus about Barca's death and Ashur's hand in it. Spartacus gains support from Mira, Batiatus' wife's new slave, who is tasked with opening the gate to the villa from the training area. 

Crixus resists aiding Spartacus in hopes of reuniting with his lover Naevia (who had been banished from the ludus by Lucretia after she discovers her affair with Crixus because of Ashur's trick to avenge Crixus), however, after learning he was weakened to ensure Spartacus' victory, at the last moment he joins with Spartacus. Doctore initially stops Spartacus from killing Batiatus. In the ensuing chaos of the gladiators' killing of the guards and some guests, Crixus persuades Doctore to join him with Spartacus, while Illithyia escapes and has her guards seal the door to the ludus from the outside.

 Doctore, making good on his word, tries to kill Ashur but his intended victim eludes him. Crixus grievously wounds Lucretia with a sword stab to her abdomen, piercing her womb and killing their unborn child. Varro's wife, Aurelia, kills Numerius after revealing to him that Varro was her husband, and Spartacus finally kills Batiatus in front of the seriously wounded Lucretia. After the massacre, Spartacus vows to make "Rome tremble".

2. Gods of the Arena (2011)

The miniseries features the history of the House of Batiatus and the city of Capua before the arrival of Spartacus. The main story opens not long after Quintus Lentulus Batiatus becomes lanista, manager of the House's slaves and gladiators, when he takes over his father's ludus.

Batiatus is quickly discovered to have grand ambitions, beginning with the stepping out from his father's shadow. As the story progresses, Batiatus continues to seek greatness for the House under his leadership, as well as recognition for his own name. By his side stands his devoted wife, Lucretia, who is willing to help her husband achieve his goals regardless of the cost. Batiatus soon places all of his fortunes on one man whom he believes will bring fame and glory to the House of Batiatus, his best gladiator, the Celt Gannicus. Gannicus is a skilled warrior almost without equal, who wields his dual swords in the arena with great prowess. However, Batiatus' opponents would not sit idly and allow his ascent to greatness without challenge.

Purchased as an undisciplined and disheveled recruit in the first episode, Crixus the Gaul initially endures mockery and threats of death, before eventually rising to become a gladiator of skill and fame second only to Gannicus. As Batiatus fends off repeated attempts by his professional rival Tullius and his other archenemy Vettius to obtain Gannicus, his relationships with his father Titus and friend Solonius begin to suffer the strain of Quintus' relentless ambition. Former champion gladiator Oenomaus reluctantly retires from combat to become Doctore, while Syrian recruits 

Ashur and Dagan become fierce enemies as Ashur tries to prove himself worthy of being a gladiator. Veteran gladiators Barca and Gannicus accept the rising star of Crixus but fear that their own careers will suffer, as the machinations of Batiatus and Lucretia to court Capua's elite end in tragedy for several members of the household. Against all of this, the city's splendid new arena nears completion and with it the opening games that will make men into gods. When the arena opens Solonius' and Batiatus' gladiators compete with each other, Batiatus' gladiators prevailing in the contest. Gannicus again proves himself to be the champion of Capua and the god of the arena and by virtue of his win against Solonius' gladiators, becomes the champion of Capua and gains his freedom.

3. Vengeance (2012)

After the bloody escape from the House of Batiatus that concluded Spartacus: Blood and Sand, the gladiator rebellion begins to strike fear into the heart of the Roman Republic in Spartacus: Vengeance. Praetor Claudius Glaber and his Roman troops are sent to Capua to crush Spartacus' growing band of freed slaves before they can inflict further damage. Spartacus is given a choice between satisfying his personal need for vengeance against the man who condemned his wife to slavery and eventual death, or making the larger sacrifices necessary to keep his budding army from breaking.

4. War of the Damned (2013)

This fourth season of Spartacus began airing January 25, 2013, and concluded April 12, 2013. This season follows the final struggle between Spartacus and Marcus Licinius Crassus. Crassus pursues Spartacus as he struggles to feed his ever-growing army of former slaves. Spartacus wins several victories against Crassus' forces and continues to frustrate the Romans. The series culminates in a direct all-out battle between Spartacus and Crassus.

5. Sequel- House of Ashur

On February 9, 2023, Starz announced that they were developing a sequel series to Spartacus, with Steven S. DeKnight returning to produce.  On November 9, 2023, Starz greenlit a ten-episode series titled Spartacus: House of Ashur, with DeKnight serving as showrunner and Nick E. Tarabay reprising his role of the eponymous character. In July 2024, Lucy Lawless was confirmed to be reprising her role as Lucretia in a guest appearance.  Graham McTavish, Tenika Davis, Ivana Baquero, Jamaica Vaughan, Jordi Webber, Claudia Black, India Shaw-Smith, Cameron Rhodes, and Leigh Gill were also added to the cast.

The series features an alternate timeline for Ashur, where he was not killed on Mount Vesuvius during the second season of Spartacus. Instead he is gifted the ludus formerly owned by Batiatus as a reward for killing Spartacus and aiding the Romans in ending the slave rebellion. The series premiered on December 5, 2025, on Starz.

I am currently watching this Sequel  every Friday on my Starz Subscription Account. I am enjoying the series very much.  My Photo of the Day below. 

Meanwhile, here's the AI Overview of Spartacus:

Spartacus

 (c. 103–71 BC) was a Thracian gladiator who led the Third Servile War, the largest slave uprising against the Roman Republic. 

Historical Figure

• Early Life: Born in Thrace (modern-day Balkans), he may have served as an auxiliary in the Roman army before being enslaved.
• The Rebellion (73–71 BC): He escaped a gladiatorial school in Capua with about 70 others. His rebel army eventually grew to an estimated 70,000–100,000 people.
• Death: He was defeated by Roman General Marcus Licinius Crassus in 71 BC. While he likely died in battle, his body was never recovered.
• Legacy: 6,000 survivors were crucified along the Appian Way. He remains a symbol of resistance against oppression. 

Media Portrayals

• Stanley Kubrick's Spartacus (1960): A classic film starring Kirk Douglas. It is famous for the "I'm Spartacus!" scene, where slaves claim his identity to protect him.
• Starz TV Series (2010–2013): A stylized, visceral series originally starring Andy Whitfield (Season 1) and later Liam McIntyre (Seasons 2–3) after Whitfield's death.
  • Main Seasons: Blood and Sand, Vengeance, and War of the Damned.
  • Prequel: Gods of the Arena (2011).
• Current Sequel (2025–2026): Spartacus: House of Ashur premiered on December 5, 2025. It explores an alternate timeline where the antagonist Ashur survived. As of January 17, 2026, the series is currently airing, with Episode 8 having premiered on January 16. 

Notable Literature

• Spartacus (1951): A novel by Howard Fast that served as the primary inspiration for the Kubrick film and later adaptations.
• The Gladiators: A 1939 novel by Arthur Koestler. 

Finally, there are lots of reviews and viewer impressions of the Spartacus TV series, and they consistently highlight exactly what is in the TV Series: intense violence, frequent sex, and nudity. Here’s a balanced summary of what critics and viewers commonly say about the show:

⭐ Overall Critical Reception

• The original Spartacus series (Spartacus: Blood and Sand and its subsequent seasons) received mixed reviews from critics. Some praised its visceral action and entertainment value, while others criticized the writing and reliance on adult content. 

• On Rotten Tomatoes, the first season sits around 52% from critics, with commentary noting its heavy use of blood and sex as central elements. 

👍 What Many Fans Like

• Fans often love the action and drama. Viewers say it’s intense, fast-paced, and emotionally engaging once you get past the first few episodes. 

• Many praise the story arcs and characters, especially the performances as the seasons progress. 

👎 Common Criticisms

• Violence: The show is very graphic, brutal gladiator fights, blood spray effects, and stylized gore are constant elements. Some viewers find this over the top or even comical. 

• Sex and Nudity: There is a lot of sexual content and frequent full-frontal nudity, including both male and female actors. Some audience reviews specifically note that nudity appears very often, to the point of feeling gratuitous. 

• Style Over Subtlety: Critics generally say the writing and characters can be less substantial than the spectacle, with sex and violence sometimes feeling like padding rather than true drama. 

⚠️ Content Warnings

• TV-MA rating: The show is rated for mature audiences and includes strong language, sexuality (including nudity), and graphic violence throughout. 

• Reviewers often describe it as “like an extended R-rated epic” visually striking but not for younger viewers or those sensitive to sex and violence. 

🧠 Viewer Summaries (Common Opinions)

Positive fan views say:

• It’s addictive and thrilling, with great fight choreography and emotional moments. 

• Some fans even consider it one of the best gladiator dramas on TV. 

Negative fan views say:

• Too much nudity and sex, sometimes feeling unnecessary. 

• Violence–focused visuals and effects can overshadow story or character depth. 

Bottom line: Spartacus is very much an adult-oriented historical action drama,  heavy on bloody gladiator battles, stylized violence, and frequent sex/nudity. If those elements don’t bother you and you enjoy visceral, dramatic storytelling, many fans find it compelling. If you prefer more restraint or subtlety in how sex and violence are shown, this one might feel over the top. 

Lastly, here's some Intense Historical / War TV Dramas that is more restraint than Spartacus in terms of violence, sex and nudity.  

Rome (HBO)

• Intensity: Political intrigue, betrayal, violence

• Adult Content: Present but more story-driven and less stylized

• How it differs:
  Violence is realistic rather than graphic; sexual content serves character and power dynamics rather than spectacle.

• Good if you want: Serious historical drama with depth and moral complexity.

Vikings (History Channel)

• Intensity: Brutal raids, warfare, survival

• Adult Content: Moderate nudity and sex, but far less constant

• How it differs:
  Violence is harsh but grounded; sexual content is occasional and contextual.

• Good if you want: Epic storytelling with strong themes of faith, aging, ambition, and legacy.

The Last Kingdom (Netflix)

• Intensity: Frequent battles and personal loss

• Adult Content: Limited nudity, restrained sex

• How it differs:
  Focuses on character, identity, and loyalty rather than shock value.

• Good if you want: A compelling saga without gratuitous excess.

Dark, Violent, but Less Sexualized

Game of Thrones (HBO)

• Intensity: Extreme violence and political cruelty

• Adult Content: Heavy early on, significantly reduced in later seasons

• How it differs:
  Sexual content fades as the narrative matures; violence remains but becomes more thematic.

• Good if you want: Large-scale storytelling where adult content evolves rather than dominates.

Black Sails (Starz)

• Intensity: Piracy, brutality, moral ambiguity

• Adult Content: Sexual content present but less constant than Spartacus

• How it differs:
  Moves from shock to substance; later seasons are deeply character-driven.

• Good if you want: A surprisingly thoughtful exploration of power and rebellion.

Intense but Minimally Sexual

Band of Brothers (HBO)

• Intensity: War realism, emotional weight

• Adult Content: Almost none sexually

• How it differs:
  Violence is sobering and respectful, never sensationalized.

• Good if you want: Profound intensity without sexual content.

Chernobyl (HBO)

• Intensity: Psychological, moral, existential

• Adult Content: Virtually none

• How it differs:
  Tension comes from truth, fear, and institutional failure rather than physical brutality.

• Good if you want: Deep impact without graphic excess.

Bottom Line Comparison

If Spartacus feels too excessive, many viewers find these shows:

• More mature in tone

• More purposeful in violence

• More selective with sexual content